Find Chy!

My name is Jesz Jaydnn, and I would like to bring to your attention a very serious breach of trust in our judicial system.

On August 23rd, my ex-husband was supposed to bring my two daughters home to Santa Fe. Instead, he decided to bring one daughter home, and keep the other with her paternal grandmother in Colorado. For this last week, I have been spinning in circles, trying to bring my daughter home, and I have been blocked on every avenue by the unwillingness of law enforcement to become involved in what they consider a civil matter. I had stepped out of the bounds of our Parenting Plan by allowing my daughters to spend two weeks with their father since he had moved to Colorado, and because of that, I was told the situation was my fault, I had no recourse except to see a judge before law enforcement would help me retrieve my daughter.

In 2003 when my divorce was finalized in Colfax County, I was granted full physical custody, and shared legal custody with my ex-husband. That custody agreement became absolutely meaningless when faced with the fact that I could not request any kind of support from either CO or NM in retrieving my daughter. Even out of the Colfax county DA’s office, the information came that this was a civil matter and not a criminal case.

My only recourse has been to go back to court, and have a judge uphold the current order. Only then, will I be able to ask for the various police depts. to help find and bring my daughter home. With little money, and no resources to hire a lawyer, I am instead spending hours researching the legalities of Family Law myself in order to find the correct words needed to bring my daughter home. So why is there not an emergency pick up order that can be seen and signed immediately?

I have already spoken with several parents who have already been through this same torment, this same lack of support from law enforcement when they were asked to honor a document signed by a judge designed to protect our children. I have come to believe this signifies a complete lack of care on the part of our judicial system once a case has left the walls of the courthouse. How is it, that a document signed by a judge is only honored until it’s actually needed? And how is it that what should be rightfully called kidnapping in any other circumstance, is no longer considered a criminal act, but a civil one and of no concern by law enforcement?

How many more parents need to be faced with the idea that their ex-spouse has not only the ability, but practically the right to walk away with a child before something is done to change this system? How many times do a mother or father kiss their child goodbye without the knowledge that they will have to fight tooth and nail to bring that child home? This is something that needs to be looked at and addressed to save parents the pain and anguish of not having their child at home.

I am asking you, and I am begging you: please take the time to look at our current options for child custodial support from law enforcement. Please take the time to consider putting a new law in effect, not just for me, but for every parent out there who has to wonder if they’re going to be the next parent this happens to whom this happens. I am asking you to protect the children who are supposed to be with one parent full time for a reason. It is not right, and it is not justice to go through the process of establishing custody only to have it slip away in the blink of an eye. Please take the time to see what we as a state can do to keep our children home.

At this time, I am sending this letter to every member of our NM Legislation, our NM Governor, our NM Senators, our NM Representatives. I am also sending this on to our news media in the hopes of being heard and bringing attention to what is going on. If you would like more information, or any details, you can email me at: Contact Me

or go to my website http://waitingtobebroughthome.com

Sincerely,
Jesz Jaydnn